How to Cope with Grief During the Holidays

It has been a while since I posted my last blog. The end of the year can be challenging for many people. Many individuals are faced with increased anxiety about managing the holidays while grieving their loved ones from September to December.

Unfortunately, we live in a society where we are often forced to get back into the routine of life. Yet, due to the significant loss, we are no longer the same person. Instead, the loss has forced us to develop a new version of ourselves because there is a missing piece of us. Adjusting to this new version of ourselves is difficult. Just as much as those around us wish we return to the old self. We must accept that the older version must learn how to live without a person. This takes more than time. It takes grace, compassion, acceptance, and so much more.

So, there are some steps to help you feel more in control.

Set Boundaries during the Holiday

You can participate in some friends and family events. You could participate in what feels comfortable for you. Even though our family and friends mean well, the pressure to attend can be overwhelming when you are unsure what mood you will be in that day and time.

If you decide to go and spend time, remember you are only obligated to leave once the last person leaves. Listen to your instincts and leave when you begin to feel uncomfortable.

Listen to Your Emotions

Let’s stop pretending we are doing okay during the holidays because it is the season to be jolly. Your grief does not stop because it is the holidays. Sometimes, you are often reminded of what is missing in your life. Often, we will try to avoid these emotions to make others comfortable. Allow yourself to experience your emotions, the good and the challenging ones. As I mentioned, you must give yourself compassion and grace while processing your emotions.

The disclaimer includes being careful of the guilty feelings associated with grief. We could begin to feel guilty for having fun without them. This does not mean you love them less or that they no longer matter to you. Instead, it means you are beginning to learn how to adjust in their absence. Remember, the love you have for them is infinite. It does not leave or disappear.

Honor the Memories

You can honor the memories of your lost loved ones. You can either maintain traditions or create new ones. This can assist with your healing process, allowing you to remember and feel your love for them. It is essential to know that making new memories with family and friends will never replace the memories of your loved ones.

Coping Skills

This is the most crucial time to practice coping skills. Reach out to your support system in your time of need. You do not have to manage all your emotions alone. Journaling your thoughts and feelings. You are carrying a lot of them with you. Writing can help with some of the emotions and feelings. Most importantly, reaching out to a support group or professional can help you.

Most importantly, make time for yourself during the holidays.